Short Fuse: Do you find yourself snapping or getting frustrated over little things? Feeling on edge or easily irritated might be a sign of emotional stress, especially with the pressure of new responsibilities or feeling disconnected from your partner or baby. Poor sleep—for both you and your partner—can make arguments more likely and emotions harder to control, adding to the strain.

Pulling Away: Are you spending more time at work, isolating yourself at home, or losing interest in things you used to enjoy? When you start pulling away from others, it can be a sign that you're struggling and need a bit of support.

Turning to Substances: If you’re drinking more or relying on substances to cope, it could be your way of managing stress or emotional pain. It’s important to check if this is becoming a habit or a crutch.

Feeling Like You’re Falling Short: Do you ever feel like you’re not measuring up to what’s expected of you as a dad? Whether it’s providing for your family, being the protector, or just keeping everything together, it’s common to feel like you’re not doing enough. Many dads experience self-doubt or moments of low confidence, especially when juggling so many responsibilities.

Physical Signs: Stress doesn’t just affect your mind—it can show up physically, too. Trouble sleeping, feeling constantly exhausted, headaches, or changes in appetite might point to stress or anxiety that needs attention.

Feeling Low or Numb: If you're feeling down, disconnected, or unappreciated, it could be a sign of stress. The weight of new responsibilities, lack of sleep, and feeling unsupported can lead to isolation and overwhelm. These feelings can be hard to shake, making it tough to stay positive.

Talk About It: It might feel awkward, but opening up to someone you trust—whether it’s your partner, a friend, or another dad—can really help lighten the load. It’s okay to admit when things aren’t going great. In fact, 80% of new dads we surveyed said this is what worked for them. Just taking that step to share can ease the burden you might be carrying.

Ask for Support: If you're feeling overwhelmed, reaching out to a GP, mental health worker, or helpline can offer practical advice and tools to help you handle what’s causing the stress and take control.

Join a Dads' Group: Talking to other dads who get what you're going through can make a world of difference. Peer support networks offer a safe space to share experiences, vent, and hear others' stories. If there isn’t a local group nearby, online peer support is a great alternative. Check out the resources below to learn more.

Make Self-Care a Priority: Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. This could mean getting outside for a 20-minute walk, finding time to squeeze in a quick workout, or setting aside time for a hobby you enjoy, like reading, gaming, or even watching your favourite show. The key is making sure you take a break, even if it’s just for a little while, so you can recharge and be your best for both yourself and your family.

Tackle Practical Challenges: Life as a new dad can bring practical challenges, from sleepless nights to managing finances. It’s important to focus on what you can control and find small ways to lighten the load. This might mean seeking out resources or support in areas that feel toughest right now—whether it's finding a financial resource, seeking advice on time management, or simply learning to ask for help when needed.

Parent Club Scotland is a great place to start, find out more below!